Relational Intelligence: The Next Human Threshold
Artificial intelligence may shape our tools. Relational intelligence will determine the future we create together.
A personal reflection on AI, relationships, belonging, and why gathering together matters.
As we prepare for The Invitation Brussels, I have been reflecting on the thread that has connected many chapters of my life: bringing people together around questions, experiences, and possibilities that matter.
In an age of accelerating technology and profound transition, our greatest challenge is not simply learning how to work with artificial intelligence, but remembering how to deepen our humanity through relationship, presence, and collective wisdom.
“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” - Esther Perel
For someone who has spent decades exploring technology, innovation, and the future, the thread running through my life has surprisingly little to do with technology itself.
It has always been about people.
Long before artificial intelligence entered the conversation, I found myself bringing people together around music, culture, ideas, technologies, experiences, and shared visions. What fascinated me was never the tool itself, but the energy, creativity, and possibility that emerged when people truly connected and came alive in each other's presence.
The magic happens not in the technology, but in the space between people.
As a young saxophone player in the early eighties, I was less interested in mastering the instrument than in the feeling, belonging, and connection that could emerge through sound. Later, working with artists, festivals, and emerging technologies, my curiosity remained the same.
It was about creating wonder and witnessing moments of joy, connection, and possibility that allowed people to step beyond the ordinary. About creating experiences that shifted perception and opened new ways of seeing ourselves, each other, and the world around us.
I remember organising house parties in Brussels in the late eighties and early nineties, including transforming the Victor Horta Gallery beneath Brussels Central Station into a temporary playground of imagination and surprise. People arrived by train from London, Amsterdam, and Paris and walked straight into a house party unlike anything they had expected. Looking back, what stays with me is not only the audacity of making something like that happen for 3,000 people, but witnessing the spark in people's eyes and the countless encounters that emerged throughout the night.
A few years later, I managed the CyberTheatre in Brussels, one of Europe's earliest experiments at the intersection of technology, culture, and nightlife. Long before social media and smartphones, artists, musicians, technologists, and the simply curious gathered there to explore what the digital world might make possible.
The opening night was streamed live on Wired’s HotWired channel, reflecting the CyberTheatre's ambition to connect culture and technology in new ways. In the years that followed, the venue welcomed a remarkable mix of artists, technologists, and cultural figures, including Simple Minds, Squarepusher, the late John Perry Barlow, Dennis Hopper, and virtual reality pioneer Jaron Lanier with his band Chromatophoria. Yet once again, what fascinated me most was not the technology itself, but the conversations, unexpected encounters and collaborations, and communities that emerged around it.
Throughout my career, whether exploring culture, the internet, mobile technologies, social media, or artificial intelligence, the underlying question has remained remarkably consistent:
How can we bring people together in ways that help them see differently, feel more deeply, and imagine new possibilities for themselves and the world around them?
Technology has always fascinated me. The challenge is learning to work with it consciously, so that it strengthens rather than weakens the relational fabric of our lives.
For a long time now, I've told younger people that they won't remember most of the jobs they did. What they'll remember are the people they met along the way: those who made them feel special, opened new doors, challenged them, or with whom something unexpected emerged.
Returning to Source
Today, after living more than twenty-five years abroad, returning to the land where I grew up, undergoing heart surgery, losing both of my parents and two childhood friends, and becoming a grandfather, I find myself coming full circle.
Life has a way of simplifying what truly matters.
The endless pursuit of more gradually gives way to a deeper appreciation for presence, belonging, and meaningful relationships. Some of the most important lessons in my life have come not through information, but through experience.
Reading about trust is not the same as trusting.
Studying community is not the same as belonging.
Learning about nature is not the same as feeling part of the living world.
This is why I continue to invest in people. Not only in individuals, but in the relationships and possibilities that emerge when seemingly unrelated lives, ideas, and worlds are brought together.
More and more, I find myself returning to this simple insight: many of the crises of our time are ultimately crises of relationship, with ourselves, each other, technology, money, power, and the living world of which we are a part.
The systems we create inevitably reflect the quality of these relationships.
I was born in the land of the Flemish weavers. For centuries, they transformed individual threads into tapestries of extraordinary beauty and complexity through networks of trust, collaboration, and exchange.
Today, I feel called to continue that tradition in a different way: not by weaving cloth, but by weaving relationships between people, ideas, projects, and communities.
The future will not be built by artificial intelligence alone. It will emerge through the quality of the relationships we cultivate and the worlds we create together.
This is why gatherings such as The Invitation matter. They are investments in the relational infrastructure we will need to navigate an increasingly complex world: spaces where life invites life, where we listen, learn, create, grieve, celebrate, and imagine together.
The Invitation Brussels: What Truly Matters Now?
I feel immensely grateful for the opportunity to gather with a remarkable group of human beings who will join us at the source in the Sonian Forest to reflect on our own sources - and what wants to emerge from there into meaningful action in the world.
Some are lifelong friends. Some are people I love. Some are people whose work and way of being I deeply admire. Others are complete strangers who simply resonate with a shared question or possibility not yet fully visible.
Across two and a half days of dialogue, reflection, connection, and emergence, international and local participants will gather to explore what is being asked of us in these times, and what new possibilities might emerge when we listen deeply to ourselves, each other, and the wider systems we inhabit.
Participants are joining us from the United States, United Kingdom, Spain, Portugal, France, Italy, Lithuania, the Netherlands, Germany, China, and Belgium, creating a rich exchange between international perspectives and local wisdom.
One of the threads running through the gathering is cosmo-localism: the ability to connect globally while acting locally.
In many ways, The Invitation itself is an experiment in this possibility, bringing together globally connected people committed to meaningful action in their own communities, organisations, and places.
The Invitation is a co-creation between Samantha Sweetwater and Voices of Emergence founders Alex de Carvalho and Rudy de Waele. Together, we bring complementary perspectives on humanity and technology, emergence and action, regeneration and relationship. We are also delighted to be joined by Weaving Wolves - Inge, Leen, and Catherine - who will support the facilitation of group inquiries and participatory processes throughout the gathering.
Many of the guests joining us in Brussels will already be familiar to listeners of the Voices of Emergence podcast. Among them are past and upcoming guests including Samantha Sweetwater (True Human), Lucian Tarnowski (United Planet), Lisanne Buik (Gracious AI), and Thomas Mansfield (Thinking Like Gaia), alongside a growing ecosystem of community builders, entrepreneurs, technologists, investors, and regenerative practitioners.
A few of these conversations can already be explored through the podcast:
• Be Ready for a Renaissance with Samantha Sweetwater
• From Dystopia to Possibility with Lucian Tarnowski
• Designing Technology with Grace with Lisanne Buik
• Thinking Like Gaia with Thomas Mansfield
Joining them are collaborators and ecosystem builders including Brecht van den Begin, Xinlin Vivian Song, Ruben Daniels, Alexandra Pimor, Simone de Wijn, Tree Willard, Fredo De Smet, Barbara Seynaeve, and many others working at the intersection of regeneration, governance, finance, community, technology, and cosmo-local futures across Europe and beyond.
🌱 Only a handful of places remain available for the full experience.
True Human Salon
For those unable to attend the full gathering, it is also possible to join the True Human Salon on Friday evening. Hosted by Samantha Sweetwater and community guests, this standalone event offers a keynote and salon-style dialogue exploring the deeper questions of being human in a rapidly changing world.
At its heart, The Invitation is a simple question:
What truly matters now?
And equally important:
How do we find each other, learn together, and build the conditions for life to flourish in the decades ahead?
The Invitation is more than an event. It is a living field for orientation, coherence, kinship, and meaningful response in a time of profound transition.
From extraction to regeneration. From fragmentation to relationship. From certainty to emergence.
We thank Commons Hub Brussels for hosting us, and all those contributing to this unfolding co-creation.
The future will not depend solely on the intelligence of our technologies, but on our willingness to gather, to listen, and to weave the relationships through which new possibilities can emerge.
See you in Brussels - or beyond.
Warmly,
Rudy
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