How is Your Belief System Evolution?
What I Had to Unlearn to Step Into My True Essence
“The world we see that seems so insane results from belief systems no longer working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief systems, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds.” - Gerald G. Jampolsky
We are all shaped by stories; spoken or unspoken, inherited or absorbed. Many of those stories come in the form of belief systems.
They tell us who we are.
How we should act.
What we should strive for.
And (most dangerously) what we must suppress to belong.
Mine began in the world of music, culture, and the arts, moved through innovation and technology, dived into futurism and strategy, and now lands in regeneration, transformation, and soul-aligned leadership.
Over the years, I’ve come to realise that the belief systems I was living by were running - as a script - in the background, subconsciously - and they weren’t mine. They were passed down by culture, family, education, work, and media. And they were often rooted in fear, scarcity, control, and outdated models of masculinity.
What carried me through these chapters wasn’t just professional growth; it was an inner evolution. A deep rewriting of the belief systems I had inherited, absorbed, or clung to for safety - systems that helped me survive for a time, but no longer served the man I was becoming.
To embody true leadership, I had to confront the old scripts and replace them with more aligned truths.
These shifts didn’t happen overnight. They came through ‘going through the fire’, through reflection, mentorship, and sitting in circle. They came through heartbreak, grief, and joy. Through fatherhood. Through stillness and acceptance. Through facing my shadows and reclaiming my essence.
That’s the journey I now walk with other men through our Unconditional Men programs and circles.
Rewriting the Script: How I Transformed My Belief Systems
Here are just a few beliefs I’ve had to unlearn:
1. Linear Progress → Regenerative Growth
Old belief: “Innovation must move fast and forward.”
New Belief: “Real progress is cyclical and grounded in nature, balance, and wisdom.”
2. Masculinity as Power → Masculinity as Presence
Old belief: “Masculinity is dominance, control, suppression of emotions.”
New Belief: “True masculinity is integration, emotional presence, and inner strength.”
3. Individual Achievement → Collective Co-Creation
Old belief: “Success = wealth, status, and personal wins.”
New Belief: “Impact = joy, community, creativity, and shared purpose.”
4. Tech Will Save Us → Regeneration Will Heal Us
Old belief: “Technology will solve humanity’s problems.”
New Belief: “Technology is a tool—healing comes through restoring our relationship with Earth, self, and each other.”
5. Hustle Culture → Embodied Leadership
Old belief: “Work harder. Prove yourself. Never stop.”
New Belief: “Be still. Align deeply. Lead from embodiment, not ego.”
6. Rational Mind Over Intuition → Integration of Both
Old belief: “If it’s not logical, it’s not valid.”
New Belief: “Intuition and emotion are wise guides. Mind, heart, body, and soul must align.”
7. Growth = Success → Well-being = Success
Old belief: “Progress is economic growth.”
New Belief: “Progress is purpose, wellness, and regenerative impact.”
8. Separate Personal & Professional → Lead with Wholeness
Old belief: “Keep emotions out of the workplace.”
New Belief: “Bring your whole self—lead with authenticity and values.”
9. Scarcity Mindset → Trust in Abundance
Old belief: “There’s not enough. Compete, win, dominate.”
New Belief: “There is enough. Collaborate, trust, and flow with life.”
10. Command-and-Control Leadership → Facilitated, Feminine-Integrated Leadership
Old belief: “Lead by giving orders.”
New Belief: “Lead by creating safe space, empowering others, and listening deeply.”
Are you aware of your internal belief systems?
Are they running you—or are you willing to rewrite them?
🔥 Evolving Our Inner Code: A Leadership Invitation 🔥
Changing your belief systems mentally, emotionally, and somatically is one of the pillar practices we explore in the Cathartic Leadership program.
Through deep introspection, embodied practice, and community support, you’ll identify outdated scripts, and evolve them into a more aligned, regenerative leadership code.
Because when we evolve our belief systems, we don’t just change our lives—we reshape the world we live in.
Join us in the next Cathartic Leadership journey—a 10-week online experience to break through conditioning, come back to your truth, and lead from your essence.
Cathartic Leadership is an invitation for men, leaders, and entrepreneurs who are ready to break through outdated conditioning, access their deeper truth, and lead with authenticity, clarity, and presence. To become a leader the world needs now.
This is not just another leadership program. It is an initiation into a new paradigm of (re)generative, emotionally intelligent, and embodied leadership. A 10-week deep dive that blends inner transformation with outer impact.
Step into your next chapter as a leader, a father, a man - fully aligned with your inner truth.
🗓 Mondays, April 28 – June 30
🕢 7:30 – 9PM CET
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This program is born from my own journey of inner transformation and decades of experience at the intersection of innovation, technology, regeneration, and human development. It is an offering from my heart to yours.
Unconditional Men Leadership Series
🌱 Re-Imagining Tech: Regenerative AI & Leadership with Ruben Daniels
In a world shaped by acceleration, disruption, and constant optimisation, we ask a deeper question:
How can technology serve life—not just profit or power?
We invite you to a free unique live conversation with Ruben Daniels, visionary systems thinker working at the intersection of regenerative technology, AI, and digital sovereignty. He supports the design of self-steering organisations, ethical incentive systems, and community-aligned innovations that reconnect humanity to the Earth. Guided by ancient wisdom and a deep sense of service, Ruben empowers those building technologies that foster social connection, ecological balance, and conscious evolution.
🌀 Session moderated by Rudy de Waele
🗓 Thursday, April 10
🕢 7:30 – 9:00 PM CET
Navigating the unintended consequences of artificial intelligence requires a new approach. This session explores how regenerative AI can help us build more ethical, sovereign, and diverse systems.
This event is part of our Unconditional Men New Leadership series, offering a regular space to reflect, reimagine, and reconnect.
🔥 A Cathartic Story of Masculinity
Join me and Jean-Philippe Steeger on April 10 (5pm CET) for a live community conversation about the role and potential of the masculine in leadership and societal transformation today.
This conversation is neither a return to archaic masculinity nor a call for men to simply become more feminine - it is an invitation to explore new ways of embodying and narrating what masculinity can mean today. Through personal stories, historical context, and inspiring examples, we challenge ourselves to step into the potential of a healthy, integrated masculinity at a time when everything feels at stake.
This is not just another conversation about men; it is a call to co-create a new narrative - one that speaks to the masculine in men, in female leaders, and in trans change-makers alike. It promotes our collective readiness to move beyond crisis and reaction, toward a deeper, more connected, and more fulfilling expression of what it means to be masculine in the world today.
Sign up for the live community conversation here.
🌀 Unconditional Men Circles
A monthly free online men’s circle to connect with your essence.
🗓 Every last Thursday of the month. Next sessions: April 24, May 29, June 26.
🕒 7:30pm CET / 6:30pm UK / 1:30pm EST
🌀 More information: https://www.unconditionalmen.com/circles
💻 Click here to register directly via Zoom.
💜 A Very Personal Story
Shout out to Lucian Tarnowski, founder of the fantastic United Planet (UP) Games—an immersive adventure experience designed to co-create and upgrade our collective future. One of the upcoming games, Ibizan Inspiration, will take place in Ibiza from June 29 – July 5.
Lucian recently shared a video with me, filmed during a previous UP Game I participated in—a time when the Unconditional Men story was just beginning to emerge in Ibiza.
What makes this video particularly meaningful is that it captures the first time I publicly spoke on camera about one of the most personal transitions in my life: my daughter’s journey of becoming a transgender man.
I had to lose a daughter… to welcome the son I had always longed for.
It was a moment of deep vulnerability, grief, and unexpected joy—an experience that deeply shaped my understanding of unconditional love, identity, and what it truly means to be a father.
It’s hard to understand that my son can no longer enter the United States for this reason. How do you feel about this? Do you think this is human?
That’s it for this week. Take good care of yourself and your loved ones.
Wishing you a fantastic week ahead 🙌🏼
With love and strength, from the heart,
Rudy
Founder, Unconditional Men
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Additional Unconditional Men reading:
The Cathartic Leadership Journey
“Awakening is not easy for anyone. When it comes to men it can be especially challenging due to the lack of likeminded men and masculine role models. Many men in today’s world are being asked to embody that which is missing in the world without a clear direction and path. This is because you are the path. You are the way. Your awakening carves the path.”
Who Are the Role Models Guiding Your Life—and Who Are You Becoming?
The Masculinity Reckoning—Redefining Strength, Connection, and Leadership
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